Sorry I've been away from DeviantArt so long. Big happenings in my business and at my site (www.SandraSilvers.com) have kept me busy, but I'm back in the groove now!
Well, its true. I’m a real girl, who really likes being tied up. Simple as that. I’m not a model, or a fetish professional. When I was younger, I remember watching TV action or detective shows where the girlfriend of the hero or heroine of the story would be grabbed by the bad guy, and thoroughly tied up in a hideout and held for ransom, and knowing there was something there that was drawing me in. I would read stories or comic books in which the intrepid reporter would snoop too far and end up bound and gagged in various predicaments to await hero’s arrival. These thoughts and images filled my fantasies. The more I absorbed, the more I realized I wanted to be that hostage on the TV show, that reporter in the comic book.
I became an avid enthusiast of what in the bedroom is called “Love Bondage”. The kind of fun tying up where no one gets hurt, or humiliated or worse. But I knew there was something more I wanted. I have since coined a new term, “Loving Restraint”. Loving Restraint is love bondage taken one step further out of the bedroom. Its love bondage with a story, in a cool location, with various clothing/costumes (or no clothing/costumes
Being tied up tightly, tenderly and creatively is what I craved, but I was constantly misunderstood. Trying my best to incorporate my interests into my relationships, I frequently scared partners away, because when I would ask them to tie me up they associated bondage with harder S&M-related fetishes, which they didn’t want to delve into. Or the opposite would happen, where a partner would think that because I was into being tied up, I must be into pain and S&M. I would never judge or cast aspersions on anyone’s fetishes (as long as they were consensual), but it was tough to explain, and still is, that I like to be tied up, but not hurt. You’d think it would be easy to explain, but trust me, with ever more extreme websites and modern “torture-porn” movies, its tough to get the point across.
So years ago, I was up one night trying to find some bondage erotica on-line to amuse myself with and realized that the Love Bondage/ Loving Restraint community was really under-represented on the web. With that in mind, I wanted to create something for actual Love Bondage / Loving Restraint enthusiasts. Either practitioners or those that hope to be practitioners.
Something or those who are looking to introduce their significant other to a world of incredible fantasy and fun. My goal with this site is to produce a learning tool that a husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, who is interested in tying up their significant other but doesn't know how to bring it up, whether out of fear that they might scare their lover or friend away or just tired of the mainstream associating what they want with S&M, can use to introduce the concept of bondage into their play.
This kind of play is something that when done right brings a couple closer together at all levels. Trusting someone enough to play in this manner is a sweet and sensual experience. For the tie-er, the emotional rush that comes from the responsibility and reality of knowing that their lover truly trusts them with their most valuable possession, their body. And for the tie-ee, the bliss of knowing that they are ultimately, truly cherished, in that they gave themselves over to someone, who when given that total control couldn't and wouldn't take advantage of their power. Once within this kind of trusting relationship, the couple can engage in a healthy fantasy life full of experiences they never imagined fueled by imagination they had yet never experienced.
Thank you for taking time to stop by. Enjoy!
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